THE IMPORTANCE OF A BFF
Issabout to get cheesy. Kinda. But is okeee. You gotta celebrate your bestie (even when it’s not her birthday, duh!) and here it goes.
My BFF is, no surprise there, J. We hold each other down. She accepts all of my moods. She calls me out and tells me the truth. And more importantly she has always empowered me, for example, to wear certain things. She is selfless and generous. And fun, but we knew that. To me she is very inspiring with her actions, views and thoughts.
I keep the parking ticket because she’s going lose it anyway. And she cooks because I am a loser in the kitchen. I remind her about meetings and she reminds me about not stressing out about meetings. I take her home safely after a night in the club and she gets me to the club in the first place. We got our first tattoos together. We used to have our periods synched. When one has no money at the end of the month, the other one feeds the poor one. What sounds like an old married couple still learns from each other. It helps that we live 250 meters apart.
To me she is a badass chick who knows what she wants. To us nothing is embarrassing. She knows all weaknesses of myself and I know hers and it’s okay. We agree like 99% of all times and have the same taste in 99% of the cases (just not on Ed Sheeran and when it comes to super bulky dad-sneakers – no thanks Balenciaga, but thanks). When we do not agree with each other on something, we are there for each other when the other one was right after all.
Over the course of years, we had our not so peachy moments which is normal. But we have been at each other’s side for over 7 years (omg, honey!) and often a BFF like her knows you better than you know yourself – at least in tricky situations when you lost your focus for a minute.
Why a BFF is essential? She is like the sister you never had, extended family, it’s the one who is not afraid to speak the truth, it’s the one that picks you up when you forget how to do it yourself for a minute. She is the one who should inspire you. She is the one who never makes you feel alone even when you are single. With her you have the best and finest conversations. The beauty of a deep friendship with another woman is that it naturally evolves over the years because we all grow (up) and change. We need that special bond among strong females.
We have met so many women of all ages and from different countries over the years that we learned from and who shaped us. Even when just meeting them for a day or for an interview. You can call them “BFFs for a day”. I want something out of every conversation when I feel like I clicked with a girl. Women need to share more with each other to create stronger bonds. Also, we need to talk about the stuff that goes wrong. Take a minute and look around you. Find your match. Find your bestie and you never go through life alone. Don’t have a BFF? Keep your eyes and heart open. There is one for everyone out there. Sometimes it’s love it first sight, sometimes it’s someone you didn’t even like when meeting her for the first time. Of course, you won’t vibe with every female on this planet but keep the ones close where you feel like the energy is there.
One of the most precious things about our friendship is that we both extended our circle – some of J’s friends have become mine as well as the other way around. Surround yourself with beautiful people. Keep them in your life. You will find more and more BFFs along the way.
Your girl T