7 WOMEN SHARE THEIR PHILOSOPHY OF SELF LOVE
SELF LOVE IS THE SHIT, IT’S VITAL, IT’S GOTTEN A WHOLE NEW MEANING AND YES, MEANS SOMETHING DIFFERENT TO EVERYONE.
WE ASKED 7 BABES WHAT THEIR PERSONAL PHILOSOPHY OF SELF LOVE. DIG IN.
FOUNDER OF @NENECREATES
“When a girl loves herself the world is at her feet. His heart is warm. And her voice is loud.
The love for ourselves creates a space of happiness, wealth and health. In a world where self-love is manifested and celebrated we are able to embrace differences and see someone as a flourishing individual with no intention to define ourselves or others through a comparative lens.
I truly believe that the world would be a different place if more people loved, respected and valued themselves. But I am also aware that the concept of self-love is still and has always been underestimated. Our education system has failed us emotionally and spiritually. Where are the schools that teach us to believe in ourselves? Where are the teachers that tell us to listen to our intuition? Where are manifestos about self-love/growth and journey towards this beautiful state in our contemporary media outlets? Where are the legitimized institutions that try to foster the well-being of ourselves all over the world? And where are the masters, the mothers, aunties or fathers who tell us that we are strong enough to cry, let go and forgive ourselves?
It is now growing and I am extremely happy to be a part of that change, but self-love is yet to be valued in a way that it will not be frowned upon. Because it is okay to stay home and call in sick because you are emotionally drained. But It is also okay to have stretch marks all over your body or to leave a place because you do not feel safe. It really doesn’t make you any less of a human being.
The only thing that it may make you is different and there is nothing wrong with that!
So love yourself so deep, that happiness will find you. So high that you won’t allow yourself to live in toxicity. And so broad that you can see your worth through all the emotions of life. ‘Cause girl YOU ARE ENOUGH!”
1. Lemme listen to my intuition!
2. I am enough!
3. My mind is strong!
4. Not everyone is going to like me, but why do I even care!
5. I seek help when I need to.
6. I am okay with not being okay.
7. I will be there for you, but first let me recharge
“Talk about feelings. Write them down. It sounds silly but it helps to put things in perspective on the long run. It will make you see things about yourself that you haven’t seen before.”
“I think self love is a process and sometimes it’s ok not to be ok with yourself. You can’t force it. Two years ago I was dealing with illness and due to this I almost slipped into an eating disorder, losing a lot of weight. Too much weight. What was shocking me most, is that everybody around me started to comment on my body. They complimented me for being thin, even if they didn’t know the reason why I lost weight. When I started to eat normal and gained weight they said, that I looked better before. At this point I realised that I will never be „perfect“ or „beautiful enough“ in the eyes of someone else, and that I don’t have to be. Only thing that really matters is that I feel comfortable in my body. This, of course, takes time. As I am going to Ballett class since I am a child, dancing is one of those things that I do to reconnect with my body and mind. So, no matter how old you are, start dancing, even if it’s only for yourself at home. When I dance I feel free. I think of dance as a language, through which I am able to express all those feelings I can’t put into words. Life sometimes can be very fast, too loud and my feelings often overwhelm me. To better deal with that I try to close my eyes everyday für 10 minutes. No music, no visual input. Just let your thoughts come and go. Even if they hurt you, they may be useful for your personal growth. And last but not least, if you’re a vulnerable person: don’t let anyone tell you that you’re too „soft“. In a world in which kindness, feelings, and caring for each other is becoming rare, we need empathy more than ever.”
FOUNDER OF @AMBER_MAG
“Since creating Amber Magazine my self-confidence has sky rocketed, this is mainly due to surrounding myself in positive influences. I can’t stress the importance of removing any negative influences (in real life and on social media) that make you feel sh*t about yourself. You deserve so much better than that. Also, if you catch yourself thinking negatively, nip that in the bud right away. Self-love is a process, it’s normal to have to work at it. Next time you think ‘urgh I look so awful’ take a breath, raise your head and say no, no I don’t, I look amazing, and I know that I am incredible. Whatever talk works for you, give it a go! Wishing you all the best in your self-love endeavours.”
CO-FOUNDER OF @BLACKBIKEMUNICH
„Plan every Sunday enough me-time in your next week’s schedule: your boy will love you at the end of a hard week! Next important thing that you should never skip: Do you have a healthy lifestyle? Do I eat as often as I really need or how much water did I drink yesterday? Besides nutrition, you should also organize your personal sports week. What brings you to be on fire? Late night walks outside with your puppy or skiing? Try something new besides yoga or meditation apps, what about boxing or a quick home workout listening to your all-time favorite songs? Give yourself some credit and get your mind off for a couple of hours and you will see how your dreams begin to become more inspirational. I will never forget what life taught me and I could never be the person who I am today. A beautiful sentence my sister told me once: „Always believe in yourself, no matter what!“
Co-Founder WOMOM and photographer
”Self love is great, but sometimes I just don’t feel it. I wrote this sentence for WOMOM a while ago.. And for the record - I love body positivity! It’s a great and empowering movement! But it’s not always that easy to feel and live it, especially when you can see it everywhere and everyone is preaching „love yourself!“ You can’t just force yourself to love yourself - it’s just not that easy. I am grateful for my body being a home for my little baby, but it’s hard for me to love the little „leftovers“ of this great journey. There are good and bad days of feeling comfortable, there will always be.And I don’t have to love every part of my body every day, but who does?! Every body tells stories, but there aren’t only love stories! Sometimes you feel more comfortable with yourself than other days. Self love is just another feeling and feelings come and go and come…. “
“My philosophy of life in general is to love and appreciate the things we are blessed with. And the very first „thing“ we should be thankful for in my opinion is ourselves. Loving yourself isn’t vanity. It’s sanity. Our society somehow sadly got more into overvaluing what they are not while at the same time forgot to and sometime even how to value what they are… But we were born to be real and not to be perfect. Also I deeply believe that you cannot truly love someone else until you know how to love and appreciate yourself. Once I figured all that out (round about 5 years ago) I deciced to get a tattoo (whose meaning only I know) which to me summs all that up. It’s Sanskrit (I’m a Yogini, so…) and it means being thankful.”