6 WOMEN SHARE THEIR BEST BREAK UP ADVICE
HEARTBREAK SUCKS. BUT WE GOT YOU. WE TURNED TO A FEW OF OUR FAVORITE GIRLS AND ASKED THEM TO SHARE THEIR PERSONAL ADVICE FOR ALL OF US. HERE IT GOES.
FOUNDER OF @NENECREATES
“I have honestly never experienced a break up with someone that I was in love with. But I have consciously left friendships in my past. It was very hard to make such decisions as I have the tendency to think about their feelings before my own. But at the end of the day I have to be honest with myself and I know that I do not deserve to be in a toxic environment. Toxic doesn’t necessarily has to mean abusive an aggressive. It also covers situations where partners or friends are not able to grow together anymore no matter how kind they are as human beings.”
Keep this in mind:
1. Remember why you broke up.
2. You are going to be fine on your own!
3. It’s not always a bad thing: Be appreciative of the blessing that you at least had this time with this person.
4. It’s okay to grow apart and you can grieve over it.
5. Why would you stay in a toxic relationship when you can be in a healthy one?
6. Why be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you?
7. Don’t give up on your self!
“Now is the time for you to try and do anything you ever wanted: go travel to a place you haven’t been before, go do that sport that you always admired from afar, go learn a new hobby. Getting busy is an amazing way to avoid overthinking about „what if’s“.
“Every Break Up hurts, and that’s ok. Allow yourself all feelings, allow yourself to cry. Talk to your best friends. Do things that make you feel happy, no matter what it may be. What helped me, is removing my ex from aaaaall social media platforms. Sounds cheesy, but I didn’t want to see what he was doing and with who he was hanging out. But I think this is a very personal deciscion and you should decide for yourself wheter you want to do that or not. I knew that I didn’t wanted to be „friends“ with him after we broke up, and it helped me to „forget“ and simply to feel better. Plus: Write it down. Write down everything that comes into your mind, when you think about your break up. Positive thoughts, negative thoughts, single words, your feelings. Writing is like therapy for me, so maybe you should just give it a try, too. After writing everything down I feel a little bit lighter – not only if it comes to break ups, but also in general, when I have too much things going on in my head. If you’re an overthinker - I am one, too - , this method could be useful to calm your thoughts and letting go.”
FOUNDER OF @AMBER_MAG
“Once you have decided that it is well and truly over, remove that person from your life. Remove all forms of social media, pictures on your phone, things that remind you of them. Not out of spite, but out of peace of mind for yourself. For me, this has always been the best way to move on and forget. Once you have cleaned the slate, you can then begin to focus on yourself. You’ve now got all the time in the world to do what you want, indulge in all the things that you love. Heart break is never easy, but time will pass and it will get easier. Focus on loving yourself, because at the end of the day that is what matters the most.”
CO-FOUNDER OF @BLACKBIKEMUNICH
“First of all: Drive to your best friend’s house and cry, tell her all your emotions and how you really feel right now. Eat all that chocolate, that pasta, drink that glass(es)of vine to get you to a point where you can laugh (maybe just for a second.) The hardest part: Look in the mirror and confess what’s reality! If you need to pack your stuff, do it! If you need to move to another city, do it! No matter what hell you are going through, now is your time to shine: Do whatever feels good, what makes you happy, what lets you forget your ex. Do that trip to Rome and see what romances are waiting for you in Italy, grab your best friends and book a flight to a city you have never been, but: never ever stop living in the moment! Look into your future and let yourself get inspired what live has to offer. And never forget: your tribe is right behind you!”
Blogger and Editor of @frolleinherr
“Luckily my last break up has been awhile, but what really helped me is this particular phrase we know oh so well: He wasn’t-the right one. know, we have all heard it before, but there is a truth to this sentence. If he doesn’t want me - for whatever reasons - then he simply was not the right one. And that means, out there is someone else who wants me. With all of me, with all my flaws. And what can I tell you? After realizing this fully, trying to be someone else or trying to hide some side of me, I found my boyfriend! And it worked so well because I was myself from day one. Without any excuses!”