HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS AS A GROWN UP

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Making friends seemed so easy back in the days. You went to school and the people you vibed with became your circle in pretty much an instant, there were no boundaries, it just happened naturally and all of a sudden you were having your first sleepover. What can I say, it definitely got harder. Once we’re out of school or university, we spend the most time at work. But especially if that is in another city, it can be a challenge to find like minded individuals to simply hang with, which is essential for our wellbeing. So how can you really make friends in your late 20ies and up?

Sign up for a new hobby

This is the oldest trick in the book. Find something you like or you think you could like (pottery, boxing, soul cycle, a book club) and go there at least once a week. Chances are, you will find people with similar interests, plus you immediately have something to talk about – your new hobby. Also, it’s always good if you choose something in your neighborhood, because it means you will likely meet people who live close by.

 Don’t overthink!

If you sit in a coffee shop and see a person you find interesting (in a friendship type of way), would you talk to them? Probably not. Well, this is exactly where we need to get over ourselves. If you see a seemingly cool person, just go ahead and talk to them. Start with a compliment and just go with the flow. All they can do is find a polite excuse not to talk to you, but if you don’t try, you will never know, if that could have been your new bestie.

 Use your resources

You can’t just find flings or partners on Instagram, but also new friends. You can even just post something in your story saying “Who wants to go for a coffee/run/outdoor cinema?”. Be bold! We all have so called Instagram friends, so turning them into real life friends can’t be that hard, can it?

 Look for events targeted at women

We just had one in Munich with our Charity ride and there’s tons out there: Events that are there to bring women together. It’s honestly the easiest tip of them all, because all women there are looking for new connections and it simply feels natural. Make sure you follow the respective accounts in your city to stay up to date and don’t be afraid to reach out to them either or even suggest an event.

Travel alone

Travelling by yourself will push you out of your comfort zone, it will teach you a lot about yourself (like learning to be comfortable alone) and you will 100% make new friends. The important thing is to travel with a purpose: Go to a surf camp, a yoga retreat or simply stay at a hostel – you’re bound to meet people there. This might not result in a friendship that’s in your city (even though it’s very likely there will be people from your city or at least your country)  or even a long term friendship at all, but you will get more used to just talking to strangers and connecting with them, which will help you in your day-to-day life. I promise, you will come back feeling more free, inspired and most importantly, with better social skills.

 
 

by Jana